EPISODE 199: Am I The Asshole? Masturbation, Snooping, and Jealousy

Pillow Talks

Vanessa & Xander Marin

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.8 • 2.2K Ratings

🗓️ 13 March 2025

⏱️ 58 minutes

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Summary

We’re back with a fan-favorite series—Am I The Asshole? 🎉 You know we love diving into the wildest relationship dilemmas, and today’s lineup is extra spicy. We’re tackling situations that might hit way too close to home, like: 🚨 Masturbating - do you have to tell your partner every time? 🚨 Journaling about a past relationship—cheating or harmless? 🚨 Going through a partner’s phone (they found what?? 👀) 🚨 A partner picking up an annoying new voice… and refusing to drop it Sounds messy, right? We’re breaking it ALL down, sharing our takes on who’s the asshole, and of course—we want to hear yours too! Get ready to laugh, cringe, and maybe rethink your own opinions on these situations! 🎧 Want More AITA? If you love these episodes, don’t miss our past Am I The Asshole? deep dives: 🎧 EP 187, EP 155, EP 135, EP 125 📲 Stay Connected with Us! 💌 Join our email list for exclusive BTS + first access to everything we create 📸 Follow us on Instagram and tell us—who do YOU think is the asshole in these stories? 🎥 Subscribe on YouTube to watch this episode & more 💖 Links & Resources – Take Your Intimacy to the Next Level 💋 Give your partner the best foreplay they’ve ever had! → Ultimate Foreplay Guides Transform your sex life with expert-backed techniques designed to maximize pleasure for both of you. 📖 Want to talk about sex in a way that actually works? → Sex Talks: The NYT Best-Selling Book Discover the 5 key conversations that will unlock deeper connection, better communication, and hotter intimacy in your relationship. Which one are you diving into first? Let us know! 💬 ========================== THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS ========================== 👏 Thanks OneSkin. Get started today with 15% off using code **PILLOW** ➡︎ https://oneskin.co. 👏 Thanks Hungryroot. Get 40% off your first box and a free item of your choice for life ➡︎ https://hungryroot.com/pillow 👏 Thanks Blissy. Get better sleep, hair, and skin with Blissy. Get an additional 30% off ➡︎ https://blissy.com/POLLOWPOD. 👏 Thanks Beam. Get up to 40% off for a limited time when you go to ➡︎ https://shopbeam.com/PILLOW. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	I recently discovered masturbation. After years of purity culture, it has been freeing to finally
0:05.9	feel like I can discover pleasure without feeling like it's a sin. I went through my partner's
0:11.5	phone because he follows lots of young women on Instagram and he likes to talk about women he
0:16.9	knows during sex. My husband gets very upset every time I have to travel.
0:22.5	It makes me feel incredibly guilty for leaving him to care for our kids while I'm gone.
0:26.6	I set up everything, schedule, meal prep, alternate pickups, child care.
0:30.5	Am I the asshole for wanting to have a few weeks a year to really focus on my career and get to see the world?
0:42.3	No. really focus on my career and get to see the world. Hello and welcome to the Pillow Talks podcast.
0:45.8	We're your host, Vanessa.
0:47.2	And Zander Marin.
0:48.5	I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience.
0:51.5	And I'm just a regular dude.
0:52.7	We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for
0:57.4	improving yours.
0:58.8	Make sure you subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical
1:03.8	relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom
1:09.5	doors and so much more.
1:11.6	It's the sex education you wish you'd had.
1:15.9	We are back today with a fan favorite series, Am I the Asshole?
1:22.4	So first we got to give credit where credit is due.
1:24.6	This trend emerged from Reddit originally. There's a whole subreddit all
1:29.6	called Am I the Asshole. AITA. But we thought it was such a fun idea. We thought, you know what,
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