The idea of touching your own body to bring it pleasure, that is such a beautiful concept.

That's so loving and so kind, like, I want to experience pleasure in my body. I want my body to feel good. I want to know like what my body needs.

Hello and

I'm a sex podcast. We're your host Vanessa and Zander Marin.

I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience.

And I'm just a regular dude.

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It's the sex education you wish you'd had.

Today we are taking it back and answering some of your most frustrating challenges

about the very first topic that I became known for in my career as a

sex therapist which is female orgasm. So way back in the day Buzzfeed called me the orgasm whisper I've been interviewed as a female

orgasm expert by Oh Oprah's magazine The New York Times goop and vogue

But before we get into any of your questions I want to tell you a little

bit about my own journey with orgasm because I know people make a lot of

assumptions about our sex life with me as a sex therapist, I actually really struggled with

orgasm. So I figured out how to make myself orgasm pretty early on, but I could not figure out how to get there with a partner.

And I remember my very first, you know, starting to become sexually active with my boyfriend, Like it was a really great circumstance.

We loved each other.

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