Hey guys, my name is John Kim. I'm a licensed therapist and life coach putting

self betterment into a shot class because let's face it who's got that much time

these days. I come unpolished, unrehearsed, on purpose.

If you're looking for more of a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place.

I did an interview with Leanne Rimes once on Instagram Live and toward the end I asked her

what's the best thing that's never happened to you and she was so confused. She wasn't

confused on how to answer the question. She was confused at what exactly I was trying to ask

her and totally fair. She was probably thinking, is this guy trying to be clever or funny? What is he asking me?

I didn't explain it well, but I wanted to explain it to you today

because I do have a point to that question.

I think that so many of us, when we're in it, right, when we're in the trenches and we want

something to happen so bad, whether it's, you you know fixing a relationship or maybe it's

getting that job or getting your business going whatever it is we want something

and then for whatever reason it doesn't happen and then looking back later you realize it was such a blessing that it

didn't happen right maybe you found someone else and that became the love of your life and looking back you realized you dodged the bullet or maybe

whatever company didn't happen was a blessing because now, because that forced you to go

in another direction and now you are partners with someone else doing something else that you

love or who knows, right? So there's a lot of things that when we're in the middle of it, when we're in the

storm or in the trenches, we want something so bad, right? And sometimes they are the best things that never happened to us. Okay, hopefully

I have explained it a little more in detail.

Hopefully you get it.

When I think about the best things that never happened to me,

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