You said that your ex-partner looks a lot like your mom, and you also said that your mom never protected you from the abuse that you endured.

What if this is your opportunity to actually have a corrective experience?

To feel safe being completely exposed and

vulnerable and knowing confidently that this person on the other side will protect you

and they'll keep you and give you the experience that you never had of

being protected at your most vulnerable.

When you're able to get into your subspace, right?

When you're being submissive and you're able to get into that subspace, which is that head space where you're there.

You're able to completely let go of control.

Your guard comes down and you flow into the other person

knowing that they have you.

They got you.

And I can see, in some some cases how that could be incredibly powerful

since you've always had to have your guard up in these other situations where you

were being traumatized. Hey everybody before we start the show I want to make a

couple disclaimers.

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So please use your best judgment. I will never be offended if you need to skip a question or an episode entirely but feel free to feel it out

check out the episode and just see what happens if you need to skip that's okay but you know feel

free to give it a shot first I also need to say that while I am a psychologist I'm not your psychologist and I'm not your therapist.

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