Welcome to ABG Asian Boss Girl, a podcast for the modern day Asian-American woman.

I'm Janet, I'm Mel, and I'm Helen.

Hello everyone and welcome back to another episode of the Asian Boss Girl podcast.

So on today's episode, we decided to dig a little deeper with our parents to hear and share

the stories that they never told us. You know, there have been many times in my mid 20s, late 20s,

early 30s, even just yesterday. I stopped and think to myself, what I'm experiencing right now.

The life I have lived and am living right now will never be fully shared or even appreciated

by my child. The story of how Philip, their dad, and I met, the ups and downs we had throughout

our relationship, the slight but romantic things he would do for me, like reaching for my hand

when he was sitting in the front seat of a lift and he'd reach back and hold on to me while

maintaining conversation with a lift driver, how I said to him that that was one of the most

romantic things that he'd ever done and how he'd say, oh you think that was romantic? You just watch,

yet he never did that again. So all of these moments, the ups and downs, our college experience,

our careers, all of the emotions and feelings we've had leading up to become the person we are today

and their parents in the future. All of this will never be fully understood by our kids,

and even if we recap these stories in some way or form, one will likely forget a lot of the details

and two, they might not even want to hear it till they're a lot older themselves,

and maybe by then we'll forget these stories altogether. When I was a child, my parents often

shared bits and pieces of their past with me and I know like the basics, the overall of where they

grew up and how they met, but I used to listen to these stories just noticing the top level facts.

There's something about the traditional Asian household that makes it really challenging and

difficult to get to a level of intimacy where we both are at a place of comfort and we both

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