You are listening to Feeding the Mouth That Bites You with Ashley Parrish and Jessica Pfeiffer.

A weekly podcast guide on parenting teens and launching them into the world.

As always, we are joined by psychologist and author, Dr. Ken Wilgus.

Hey, everyone, and welcome back.

On today's episode, we'll be discussing parents who can't stop checking, nagging, or reminding their teens.

Anyone? Anyone?

I think that this is targeted toward me.

I don't have a problem in this area.

I'm very subtle about this.

I will be the expert on today's episode.

Thank you, Ashley, for taking over.

I'm definitely, definitely bad at this.

Ask my kids because I really want to be hands off and I really want to let them, you know, make their own decisions until they're doing the wrong thing.

And then I want to remind them that that's not the direction they're supposed to be heading. It's a struggle. And parents end up

feeling stuck like I have to bite my tongue all the time, can't say anything. And, you know,

they'll come to my office. I've told just before. I can't imagine how many parents come as if I'm the vice principal and they're going to get in trouble.

And I'm going to say, oh, you're really ruining.

You know, if a parent isn't doing the plan emancipation and feeding them out, then that means they'll be doing what is normal American parenting.

It's not terrible. It has major pitfalls, but it doesn't mean you're ruining everything.

But yeah, this is a common thing that comes up in my office, which actually starts with the good news, which is the parent that's concerned about it, has bought into plan emancipation.

And it agrees that on these areas that we've released, I need to try

to stop school is virtually always the biggest one. I need to try to stop reminding,

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