And then due to emotional reasoning, which is kind of one of those thinking traps, you think that because there's this increased sense of tension, that means that your fear was right.

Okay, you're confirming that something is actually wrong because it feels that way to you.

And then that in turn prompts you to want to reduce that tension somehow.

It doesn't feel good.

You don't like feeling like something's wrong.

So usually a way to do that is to check in. Are we okay? How are you feeling? Are you mad at me? What's going on?

And check in over and over again and kind of become very dependent on that reassurance.

Hey everybody, before we start the show, I want to make a couple disclaimers.

This show does cover a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general,

and some of those could be sensitive for you.

I want to simultaneously encourage you to be brave in

consuming difficult content but also respect and recognize your

limitations. So please use your best judgment. I will never be offended if you need to

skip a question or an episode entirely but feel free to feel it out

Check out the episode and just see what happens if you need to skip that's okay, but you know feel free to give it a shot first

I also need to say that while I am a psychologist I'm not your

psychologist and I'm not your therapist. This is not intended to be direct medical

advice and you should not use this as a substitute for professional help. So with those said, let's go ahead and get into the show. All right. Hello friends of all varieties.

This is the Hardcore Health

Help Podcast episode 136. I'm your host Dr. Robert Duff, aka Duff the

Psych. I make mental health content for real people, just like you you and today I'm doing a question and answer episode.

If you're new to the show I have a variety of formats.

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