You are listening to Feeding the Mouth That Bites You with Ashley Parrish and Jessica Pfeiffer.

A weekly podcast guide on parenting teens and launching them into the world.

As always, we are joined by psychologist and author, Dr. Ken Wilgus.

Hey, everyone, and welcome back.

On today's episode, we are covering part two of the limit setting series join myself jessica

fifer and dr ken wilgus as we jump right in to this conversation so dr ken i have a question

because you know i only have one that's a teenager currently and i have a lot of others in line

and so i tried the chore charts when they were little and it didn't work.

And so here's where my struggle is.

As children, I've taught them that no matter what mama ask you to do, you are to obey and do it.

So whether, you know, tonight I'm having you clear the table and, you know, tomorrow night I might ask you to sweep the kitchen

floor to no matter what I ask there to do it. So that way they can't say, well, I don't sweep.

I only clear the table. That's my job. So we don't have jobs. They're just asked to do whatever

I ask of them. So now when we're entering adolescence, what does it look like? What are my expectations? What

should they be? What's an appropriate list of expectations for my young teenager? Okay, I'm glad you

asked it just like that because, you know, I want to be real clear. I think teaching children to obey is

extremely important. And just as you said it, there's a proper point for many years in a

child's life that you need to do the thing that your parent told you to do because your parent told

you to do it. And obedience teaches us the basics of how we respond to God. You know, we're all

teenagers when it comes to God and that's sin. You know, like, why is you asking me to do this?

Do it.

He's God, you're not.

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