Episode 103: Name, Frame, and Brave Gossip

The Best of You

Dr. Alison Cook

Health & Fitness, Mental Health

5 • 710 Ratings

🗓️ 16 May 2024

⏱️ 46 minutes

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We don't want to gossip, but most of us do it. What if gossip actually plays a deeper role in our lives and relationships? So often in life we bump into "grey areas," areas that can stir up dissonance inside of us. We hold certain beliefs or values, yet we find ourselves acting in ways that are contrary to those values. In this series, we're exploring some of these areas that can bring up dissonance inside. Our focus today is gossip. I explore the problems with gossip, as well as some of the surprising research on how it can be constructive. By examining both the positive and negative aspects of gossip, you'll feel empowered to name, frame, and brave a healthier understanding of gossip in your life and relationships. Why gossip is a gray area (3:09) What the Bible says about gossip (6:42) What psychology research says about gossip (12:46) 6 motivations behind gossip (13:43) Constructive vs. destructive forms of gossip (21:40) How to Name, Frame, and Brave gossip in your own life (29:17) Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here. Related Episodes: Episode 102: I Shouldn’t Feel Conflicted About God—How to Name, Frame, and Brave Complicated Emotions About Faith & God Episode 96: Signs of Emotional Immaturity & How to Bring Emotional Health Into Your Relationships Episode 89: When A Relationship Has to Change—How to Tolerate Discomfort, Face an Attachment Void, & Resource Yourself Thanks to our sponsors: Go to www.organifi.com/bestofyou today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self. Go to thrivemarket.com/bestofyou for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to AquaTru.com and enter code BESTOFYOU at checkout to get 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Whether you're exploring distant lands or enjoying a staycation at home, Cozy Earth has your back. Visit cozyearth.com and unlock an exclusive 35% off with code BESTOFYOU. Music by Andy Luiten Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:59.4	Hey, everyone. I'm Dr. Allison, and I'm so glad you're here to discover what brings out the
1:05.2	best of you. This podcast is all about breaking free from painful patterns, mending the past and discovering our true
1:12.7	selves in God. I can't wait to get started as we learn together how to become the best version of
1:18.7	who we are with God's help. Hey, everyone, and welcome back to this week's episode of the Best of
1:27.3	You podcast. I am so glad you're here. I'm so glad you keep coming back each week to join me for these conversations. And I am thrilled about this brand new series that is based on the framework I laid out in my brand new book. I shouldn't feel This Way. Many of you have it in your hands already.
1:45.6	Many of you have already read it. In this series, I'm going to apply the framework, the three-step
1:50.6	process in I Shouldn't Feel This Way, to complicated real-life challenges that I don't address in the book.
1:57.0	So we're going to cover a wide range of topics in this series, topics that are sometimes the source of debate or differing opinions, and they might lead to some internal dissonance.
2:07.8	Dissinence is this feeling of discord inside of you when you have two competing priorities that are at odds with each other, or maybe you're behaving in a way outwardly that doesn't
2:20.1	match up to a belief you hold inwardly. And as I teach you, and I shouldn't feel this way,
2:26.2	that experience of dissonance is a gift. It's a cue to get curious. I wonder what that's about.
2:33.6	For example, I notice that I'm really tempted to tell a little
2:37.3	white lie in this situation, even though I don't want to be someone who lies. And so when you
2:43.1	notice that experience of dissonance inside of you, it's a cue to do some naming work,
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