Episode 101: Is Gaming Hurting Your Relationship? Part 1 Of The “I Love You But I Don’t Like You” Series

Pillow Talks

Vanessa & Xander Marin

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.8 • 2.2K Ratings

🗓️ 27 April 2023

⏱️ 66 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever looked at your partner and thought to yourself, “I love you, but I don’t like you right now”? Don’t worry, it happens to the best of us!

We’ve been dying to do an episode about the topic, but when we polled our audience on IG, it quickly became obvious that this needed to be a series, not just a single episode.

So this week, we’re focusing on one of the most frequent complaints - gaming. 40% of our Instagram community said gaming is hurting their relationship. The gamers are feeling dismissed and misunderstood, and the partners are feeling lonely and unprioritized.

In this episode, we’ll teach you how to both be accountable for your wants and needs, how to avoid common pitfalls, and even reveal the 3 things that gamers wish you knew as a non-gamer. Whether you’re listening together or solo, we hope you take some notes to help you get on the same page, because no hobby should come in between you and your partner.

Head on over to our Instagram afterwards and tell us what you found most helpful, and also, let us know what you’d like to see as the next topic in the series!

Links & Resources:

Guide: Mental Load Workbook

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Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode101

Transcript

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0:00.0	If you're the non-gaming partner, you very well may need to have some boundaries around
0:04.3	your own hobbies.
0:05.8	So I think if you approach it in this way of like, yeah, how do we make space for both
0:09.4	of these things, then that can feel like a much better conversation rather than a, you're
0:14.9	a gamer and I hate gaming and let's make some rules about your gaming.
0:24.4	Hello and welcome to the Pillotox podcast.
0:27.5	We're your host, Vanessa.
0:30.1	I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience and I'm just a regular dude.
0:34.8	We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for
0:39.0	improving yours.
0:40.5	Make sure you subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical
0:45.4	relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom
0:51.1	doors and so much more.
0:53.4	It's the sex education you wish you'd had.
0:57.7	Thanks to StoryWorth for sponsoring Pillotox.
1:00.6	Give all the moms in your life a meaningful gift you'll both cherish for years, StoryWorth,
1:05.9	and save $10 on your first purchase when you go to storyworth.com slash pillow.
1:11.2	Today we are talking about gaming.
1:14.0	Zander, you were showing me a real like two nights ago about a game, a video game and
1:20.6	it's theme song.
1:21.6	So I think today you have to come up with a Pillotox theme song.
1:26.0	Like if Pillotox was a game, what would the little music in the background be?
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