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Hi peeps, Help Me Be Me is underfunded and needs your help. If you enjoy listening to this or it helps you at all,

please visit Help Me Be Me.com and click donate or visit me on Patreon. Thanks. Hi friends it's Sarah May and this is time to do

this is an episode I've been wanting to do forever

with my bestie Alicia Martyr.

Hey!

So she's actually the reason I'm married. Put it that way. So we're doing an

episode about stealing the deal, basically courtship practices. So just a heads up, this is kind of heterocentric, but hopefully you'll get something out of it, even if you are not straight because it's for people basically to protect themselves, honor themselves, and show that value to others in a way

that allows them to fall in love.

So Alicia is actually, I would say the inspiration for me finding a soulmate and she's very much a love

guru and that's because you're a pragmatist and I feel like you're really good at just making a plan for going

after what you want. Thank you. Before we get started what would you what would you

tell someone to look for in a relationship because I think a lot of people don't really

know what they're looking for and what they should look for.

It's a tough question but I'll go back to things that I often say when I did I think I told didn't I tell you to make

a list for that was one thing I know that's like you told me you made a list I didn't make a

list in college and I was like I'm gonna make that a thing I did that was

I call it the love list it And that was sort of more to be

conscious of what you are looking for not to be something like a checklist of if you don't

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