Hi peeps, Help Me Be Me is underfunded and needs your help. If you enjoy listening to this or it helps you at all,

please visit Help Me Be Me.com and click donate or visit me on Patreon. Thanks. Hi friends it's Sarah May. This is an episode about what to do when you have

feelings you don't want to have. It could be something that sets up a chain reaction.

First, the feelings of hate or desire or insecurity, then the shame, then the guilt, and the loop of feeling crabby by yourself and

being confused about why you feel this way, all that just compounds it. So it becomes a bigger and

bigger deal and you don't know why. So I'm writing this for all different kinds of

situations. I sort of base it mostly around anger but it

applies to all. So hopefully if you're suffering you will get a little bit of

relief for yourself and those you love.

So with that, there are three parts,

the what, the why, and the how, the tools.

Let's do this. Part 1, the what? So when you feel something you really don't want to feel and

maybe you conceptually cannot understand why you feel it. For example, let's say you feel intense hate for your child or your

mother or your spouse or maybe it's desire or maybe it's jealousy or maybe it's jealousy or

it's resent or feeling of being threatened by them.

Whatever it is, it's completely inconvenient because maybe you care

about this person and you really hate the fact that you feel this way.

It doesn't make sense to you, it doesn't align with who you are or what you want, and you wish it would just go away.

And maybe you don't want to feel this way so much and you're embarrassed about the fact that you feel that way so you start trying to block it and pretend that this is not happening or you try and

suppress it and it just starts to get worse. Maybe then you begin to act out and explode or it's something

that's making distance between you.

Like you can feel that this feeling is there

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