Ep. 77: Get Me Out of The Friend Zone!
The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
Natalie Lue
4.9 • 867 Ratings
🗓️ 24 February 2017
⏱️ 70 minutes
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In this episode, Natalie talks about why we get put in the Friend Zone and how to dodge it, plus explains why some people don't do apologies, and why breaking up with someone also means breaking up with the ideals that we had for ourselves in the relationship. This week's listener question is 'How do I set boundaries with my patronising and overbearing co-worker?', plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. #relationshipgoals
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| 0:00.0 | You're listening to episode 77 of the baggage reclaim sessions. |
| 0:06.0 | I'm your host Natalie Lou, author of baggage reclaim.com, where I help people to offload the shady relationships and emotional baggage that block healthy self-esteem and loving relationships. |
| 0:19.0 | This week I talk about how to dodge the friend zone trap and advise a listener about what to do when a coworker is patronizing and overbearing. |
| 0:30.0 | I had a number of awkward conversations back in the day with male friends who I thought |
| 0:40.7 | you know it was all cool and above board with. |
| 0:43.2 | And then there was that moment where we were alone or maybe, |
| 0:47.8 | there was a lot of alcohol involved |
| 0:49.4 | and then it was like it crossed the line |
| 0:51.8 | and it was sort of this suggestion of getting together or |
| 0:54.8 | sleeping together or something and then it would be followed by me going |
| 0:58.6 | actually I don't see you in that way, you know, I, you know, we're just friends. |
| 1:05.0 | And I wasn't actually saying we're just friends in some bad way. |
| 1:08.0 | These are people who I genuinely valued their friendship at the time, and I really did not want to endanger that that and I didn't feel enough of a romantic interest in them that I felt like jeopardizing that. |
| 1:17.0 | Now some of those friendships went on to continue and others sort of crashed and burned when it became quite obvious actually that we hadn't really ever been friends. |
| 1:26.7 | I'd thought that we were cool, but actually it was always about sort of potentially trying to at the very least sort of get me into bed. |
| 1:35.2 | Now on top of that you know I've been friend zoned as well like I remember one particular guy, you know we hung |
| 1:40.2 | out a lot and you know he would take an interest and everything it was going on in my life, |
| 1:46.0 | it was great. |
| 1:47.0 | It was actually really quite nice to be cared about and after a while I started to convince |
| 1:50.9 | myself that you know maybe we could have something really special |
| 1:53.7 | we could be just like you know one of those romcoms and you know we started out as friends and I'd seen him for a breakup with you know another |
| 2:01.5 | acquaintance of mine and we're like Star-crossed lovers and boom, |
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