You're listening to episode 72 of the baggage reclaim sessions.

I'm your host Natalie Lou, author of baggage reclaim.com,

where I help people to offload the shady relationships

and emotional baggage that block healthy self-esteem

and loving relationships.

This week I talk about the good reasons to break up and how to see your way out of negative feelings.

Years ago when I was involved with the guy at work who also had a girlfriend.

One of the reasons that he gave for sort of going back and forth

and the sort of, you know my situation

and just hold on and all this type of thing was that he didn't really have what he

thought was a good reason to break up you know obviously beyond the fact that he was

messing around with somebody else and a multitude of other things he didn't really feel that there was a good reason to break up.

But this actually isn't too uncommon actually because actually putting aside

ridiculous situations like my old one you know where you're involved with somebody who is always because actually a

a pretty good idea for you as a fair partner to break up from that one,

a lot of people do struggle with feeling that there has to be like this amazing perfect reason to break up.

Like they ask for, they ask me like what is a good reason to break up.

And so as a result, I end up talking to people who they've been trying to break up with somebody

for sometimes it's several weeks, but often it's several months a year or even several

years of going back and forth and what's keeping them stuck is are my reasons

valid for not wanting to continue on with this

relationship? And so that's what I want to talk about is really 10 key reasons that

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