Ep. 7: The Comparison Trap in Motherhood (How to Avoid it And Why "Good Comparison" Is Actually a Thing)

M Is for Mama Podcast

Abbie Halberstadt

Parenting, Kids & Family

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🗓️ 22 February 2023

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Summary

Ever looked at the way another mom: dresses her kids, exercises, cooks, cleans her house, schools her children, organizes her pantry, brushes her teeth (okay, hopefully not that last one)...and thought, "That's it! I'm done! I can never measure up!"

If so, join the club. Sometimes, it seems like "mom comparison" is an Olympic sport, and we're all competing for a place on the podium.

But, my sisters, this should not be! (Imagine me saying this in my best Pauline "letter to the Ephesians" voice.)

Yes, we can notice what others are doing so we can glean new ideas, but when we find ourselves in a place of insecurity and resentment, that's a pretty good sign that we've fallen into the pit of comparison, and we need the light of Scripture to guide us back out.

The theme verse for this episode was 2 Corinthians 10:12, and I mention that I also have a chapter (two, actually!) about comparison and staying the course in the path that the Lord has for us in the M Is for Mama book (available wherever books are sold.)

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0:00.0	Hello and welcome to the M's for Mama podcast I'm your host Abby Halberstadt
0:09.1	happy wife mama to 10 Bible believing Christian and on today's show I want to talk about something that has crossed the mind of maybe every human being on the planet, but especially I think mamas. that is comparison looking at what other people do seeing
0:26.5	that they look like they're doing such a better job than we are or sometimes on
0:30.4	the flip side thinking that they're not doing as well as we are and then
0:34.0	either feeling terrible about ourselves or superior as a result. I mentioned this
0:38.0	in several other podcasts so you're going to hear some repeat concepts but I want to
0:41.6	delve a little bit deeper into what scripture has to say about
0:45.9	comparison, what it has to say about whose we are, and what that means.
0:51.2	And so, as we're kind of setting the stage for this concept, I want to read my
0:56.9	theme verse for this podcast to you today. Sometimes you see servants that have theme verses and we're going with this. 2 Corinthians 1012.
1:06.2	Not that we dare to classify or compare ourselves with some of those who are commending themselves,
1:11.8	but when they measure themselves by one another and compare themselves
1:16.0	with one another, they are without understanding. I know that was a lot of themselves and
1:22.0	one another's, so I'm going to read that second
1:24.4	part of the verse again but when they measure themselves by one another and
1:28.9	compare themselves with one another they are understanding. Now there's a very specific
1:35.2	context for this verse that is very different than just general comparison,
1:42.0	very different than the kind of comparison that we often
1:45.0	engage in as moms. But I do think that the principal there is still really solid. So even though Paul was speaking
1:51.6	to these people that were just really full of themselves and they were belittling his preaching and his teaching saying that he's big and bold in his letters, but he's going to be really meek and nothing in person.
2:02.7	And he was having to make a case for the fact
2:05.0	that he was the same person in his letters
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