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Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

EP 511: How to Feel Connected After Feeling Disconnected with Elle

Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

Christine Hassler

Mental Health, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

4.8 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 3 September 2025

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

In this heartfelt coaching session, Christine supports Elle, who has done years of personal growth work but still struggles with feeling disconnected—especially in intimate relationships. Despite building a chosen family and strong friendships, Elle worries she may never find a romantic partner she feels both safe and attracted to. Past experiences of abuse and neglect have created protective strategies that now interfere with intimacy and connection.

Christine helps Elle see that she is further along than she realizes, guiding her to release self-judgment and reframe her experiences. They explore how protective parts, body-based healing, and inviting the inner child into present-day moments can restore connection.

If you’ve ever felt broken, wondered if something was “wrong” with you, or struggled to combine love, safety, and attraction in relationships, this conversation will offer relief, perspective, and hope.

Consider / Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel disconnected from yourself, others, or even spiritually?
  • Did you grow up in an environment where you didn’t feel safe or seen?
  • Do you tend to be drawn to emotionally unavailable partners while overlooking those who are healthy and present?
  • Are you approaching personal growth from the mindset of “fixing what’s wrong” instead of cultivating compassion and curiosity?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

  • Nothing heals in judgment—shifting from “what’s wrong with me” to self-compassion is essential.
  • Attraction to unavailable partners is often a protective strategy that keeps deeper intimacy at bay.
  • Our past selves and inner child need to be invited into the safety of the present moment.
  • Healing requires integrating body-based practices, not just intellectual understanding.
  • You are often further along in your healing than you realize.

How to Deepen the Work:

  • Practice inviting your inner child into current moments of connection and safety.
  • Approach your healing with curiosity rather than judgment.
  • Explore somatic or body-based trauma work to move stuck emotions and energy.
  • Reframe protective strategies as once-necessary survival tools—and begin to update them with new choices.
  • Remind yourself regularly: There is nothing wrong with you.

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0:00.0

This is episode 511. How to Feel Connected after Feeling Disconnected with Elle.

0:08.5

Welcome to Life Coaching with Christine Hassler, a space where truth and love come together to guide you back to your truest self.

0:16.1

Hi, I'm Christine, a master coach, author, and spiritual psychologist. For over 20 years, I've supported people through the deep work of letting go, waking up,

0:25.0

and coming home to who they truly are.

0:27.3

Each week, you'll hear an unedited, unscripted coaching session with someone moving through a

0:31.4

challenge or block in their life.

0:33.3

These are tender and powerful conversations where deep healing happens in real time.

0:38.1

Even though I'm coaching someone else, you will hear yourself in their story.

0:42.0

This is a place where you will feel seen and supported and walk away with insight, emotional relief, and tools you can apply in your own life.

0:49.9

Let's dive into today's session.

0:54.4

Hi, everybody. Welcome back to the show. This episode today, for anyone that's feeling disconnected,

1:01.4

and for anyone who has experienced any kind of molestation or sexual abuse, this one could be

1:07.8

helpful. There's not a big trigger warning in this. We don't go into any

1:12.3

explicit details about anything, but there's some conversation we get into about how when that

1:19.5

does happen in our life, attraction and intimacy can feel really tricky. And we can really

1:25.7

feel like something's wrong with us. And that was the biggest

1:28.4

theme that came out of today's show. There is nothing wrong with you. And one thing I will say

1:34.1

over and over and over and over again is nothing heals in judgment. And when you're working on

1:39.3

yourself in personal development, please, please don't come from the come from that there's something

1:45.6

wrong with you and there's a problem you need to fix or solve because that is judgment.

1:50.3

Commit to soul evolution, commit to being a generational pattern breaker, and let this be

1:56.6

like an act of self-care and self-love versus this is wrong, and I need to fix it. Because then we're

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