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Over It And On With It

EP 483: The Difference Between Being Selfish and Self-Care with Alecks

Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler

Mental Health, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

4.81.7K Ratings

🗓️ 1 January 2025

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

In this insightful episode, Christine coaches Alecks, who is navigating the fine line between self-care and selfishness. Alecks shares her struggles with balancing her own needs and feelings of guilt when caring for her family, particularly her mother. Together, they dive deep into inner child work, exploring how unresolved childhood wounds and patterns of self-abandonment can manifest in adult relationships and personal choices.

Christine guides Alecks to connect with her inner child, offering tools to repair the sense of abandonment and foster a secure attachment within herself. This heartfelt conversation sheds light on how we can honor our own needs while still showing compassion for others, ultimately empowering us to make choices rooted in love rather than guilt.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you often feel guilty for taking time for yourself or prioritizing your own needs?
  • Are you unclear about the difference between self-care and being selfish?
  • Do you struggle with feelings of abandonment or guilt when dealing with family obligations?
  • Are you ready to strengthen the relationship with your inner child and break old patterns?

 

Key Insights and A-HAs:

  • Inner child work is an ongoing process that fosters healing and connection.
  • Guilt often stems from unresolved childhood patterns of self-silencing and overcompensation.
  • True self-care involves choosing from a place of love, not guilt or obligation.
  • Repairing the relationship with your inner child can reduce feelings of abandonment and foster inner peace.

 

How to Get Over It & On With It:

  • Check in with your inner child regularly to understand their needs and feelings.
  • Practice secure attachment techniques, such as clear communication and creating agreements.
  • Reflect on where you might be operating out of guilt or obligation instead of authentic care.
  • Take actionable steps to balance family responsibilities with your own well-being.

 

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Transcript

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0:00.0

This is episode number 483. The difference between being selfish and self-care with Alex.

0:08.8

Welcome to Over It and On With It. I'm your host, Christine Hassler, and for over a decade, I've been a life coach, speaker, and author.

0:16.5

Each week, you'll hear me work directly with a caller as I coach them through a goal they want to accomplish or an obstacle they may be facing.

0:22.7

I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual advice as well as tangible actions you can

0:26.8

apply to your own life.

0:28.4

Now, let's get on with the episode.

0:35.1

Welcome, everyone, to the first episode of 2025.

0:40.0

Happy New Year.

0:41.4

I hope you had an incredible holiday.

0:43.7

Maybe some of you are still celebrating.

0:46.1

Maybe you're happy that the New Year is in full swing.

0:49.4

I always love the new year.

0:51.6

You can go back into my podcast archives and we'll even throw a link in

0:55.0

the show notes of me taking you through the New Year's ritual that I do every year. It's a two-part

1:00.3

series. One is releasing the past year and one is stepping into the new year. So again, I'll

1:05.2

throw those links in the show notes. I wanted to kick the year off with a beautiful episode where we do some interchild

1:11.7

work because inner child work is at the core of so much of my teaching. And our guest today,

1:17.7

Alex, she's actually been in my community for a while. So she knows inner child work very well.

1:22.9

So I wanted you have the experience of hearing how profound it can be when you've done it for a while

1:28.4

and also show you that we're never done. Interchild work is a continual process, not in terms of

1:34.4

like it needs to be work, but it's a relationship. And you don't just get married and then that's it.

1:40.1

You never invest in the relationship. Same thing with your child work. You do healing and you move

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