How obligated are we?

So many of our women struggle with obligation, whether we realize it or not.

We feel like we just have to because people need us, or it's our mom, or it's our dad,

or, you know, we don't want to hurt their feelings, or, you know, this need to make everybody be okay with us or that we are thinking we owe them

some type of thing, which we often do not.

I find it more often than not.

And today I want to tell you one or two stories of madness that I cannot believe women feel obligated about, sometimes even to guys, parents,

everything.

Let's talk about it because you might be in a really hard situation for no good reason.

And let's talk about how you can get out of it or you can do it better.

Let's go.

No. do it better. Let's go. Hello, Sam'a'a'a'a. Welcome back to the Mindful Muslim Smith speaks podcast. I'm your host,

Mindful Muslim, Muslim, coming to you every week on all the stuff. We deal with as Muslim women.

Subhannal Allah, al-a-a-hmit-la, there's so many things, so many things that nobody talks about.

And I want to talk about them, and one of them is obligations. Like, when can I tell my parents no. But mind you, parents listen to this podcast. So I'm very aware.

And I am a mother. I'm a mother. My oldest is like 20-something. I have grandkids. I get it.

And I have young, young, young ones too. But we have to get into this thing of like, well, what does Islam actually say? And like, where am I actually obligated? Where am I actually not? It could be to parents.

It could be to guys. It could be whatever. So here in the podcast, we talk about what's real,

but we also do it without compromising our dean. Al-Hmda'ilada of al-Alemy. So what I want to say to you

guys today is I've been talking to a lot of you guys about how to better phrase questions.

I met over the weekend, yeah, Saturday, with a lot of sisters in regards to asking questions. You know, some of us think we're in a bad situation because, you know,

that's just the way it is. I've done everything I've could. Lo and behold, no, we haven't.

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