Hello, welcome to the Excel Stillmore podcast.

I am your host, Chris Emerson, and we are here to talk about tips and strategies that you can employ to deepen your faith, improve your relationships, and just get the most out of your life.

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All right. So as the topic suggests, we're going to talk about parenting today. It's been a long

time since we covered that topic. You have to go back to the beginning of March when we did an

episode called I-level parenting. And in that episode, you have to go back to the beginning of March when we did an episode called

eye-level parenting. And in that episode, we talked about the need to be self-controlled

when we discipline our kids, the need to try and communicate authority to them in a healthy

way so that when they grow up, they'll understand the very healthy authority of God.

What I don't want to do is raise them, disciplining them, and training them in a way that is

inconsistent with what the relationship with God will be.

And if I'm yelling or making it about me or outbursts or inconsistent or hypocritical even, that's going to send the

wrong message because that's not the way that God is. And I don't want my daughter to marry into

an authority relationship like that. And I don't want my son to take a job under an employer who

behaves like that. I want him to have a healthy understanding of what

authority is like. And so eye-level parenting was about spending a little more time eye-to-eye

with your youth, especially when they're old enough to understand what's going on, and a little less

time ranting and raving. So here's the thing. We want to revisit that a little bit and really

crystallize in your mind an idea that should dominate all discipline of your children. That idea is

simple. Two words. Effect change. That's what discipline is. Discipline is about shaping. It's about redirecting.

It's not so much about the punishment as it is the result of the punishment. What did it bring about?

If a parent is disciplining their child in a certain way over and over again, and there are no results.

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