I don't know. I just have called it the family vortex. I mean, it's like people start to move

to you wherever you are. What's up guys? Back to another episode of Five Minute Fatherhood.

Me and Jeremy here. David from our homeroom community asked a really good question. And he said,

if you hate the state your family lives in, I don't think emotionally, but I think he means

geographically.

Is it okay to move and put roots down in a state you both love? David, really good question.

And yes, Jeremy, I'd love to hear your thoughts. Here's the only thing I'll toss to you, David, or toss to the community.

I think all I would say and all I do in the conversation is usually ask a question back to people or just or give like a provocative thought back to people.

And that is we never second guess moving for work or we at least always know that's an option.

If that makes sense.

Like, oh, I might get offered a job in a different state and we might go.

Like everyone always has that as like a possible option usually, right? In the corporate world, whatever. And they don't think moving for a job feels drastic by any means if they need to do it. But what is interesting is we almost rarely never ask that question for like the best of our family, right? Like what's the best thing for our unit? What's the best thing for our marriage? Maybe it's moving closer to family.

Maybe if there's toxic layers there, it's moving away from family for a little bit. Maybe it's not even about family. It's about your actual family unit. I don't know. But I do think, yes, asking the question of what is the best thing for your family is a very, very, very helpful question. and I don't think that that you should be confined then to geographical lines.

If you can't, if you can't, I mean, when asking that question, if that makes sense. Or at least it should be at the same level as the work ability to answer that question. What would you say, Jeremy? Yeah. Well, what I've seen happen so often when families do move away from, you know, maybe parents, siblings, and then they get super intentional about their family. I've seen this happen over and over again. It's really happened

to you guys. It happened to us. And that is that when you, wherever you end up, and you start

putting roots down, and then you begin to create family rhythms, and then you begin to demonstrate

honor and invitation to your extended family.

It creates what I don't know, I just have called it the family vortex. I mean, it's like

people start to move to you wherever you are. And this, of course, is not guaranteed. And for some

of you listening to this, you're like, I don't want my family to move close to me. And that's like,

you know, that's fine too.

But it's because we are so transient in our culture and because it's so easy oftentimes

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