Hi, hello. Welcome to Mary's Cup of Tea, the self-love podcast for women, though all self-lovers

are welcome here. I'm Mary. I write and speak about self-love, and I'm best known for my book,

The Gift of Self-Love, and I also host retreats for women. And this is the podcast that will

inspire you to love yourself. Real quick, before we dive in, I want to make

sure you know about my book, The Gift of Self-Love. It's a workbook to help you build confidence,

recognize your worth, and learn to love who you are. It's available anywhere books are sold.

Thousands of people have it, love it, and have told me that it is greatly benefited their

self-love journey, and I hope it'll do the same for you. And now let's get into the podcast.

This relationship tip is something that I learned in couples therapy three years ago, right?

When we first started, it was after we had gotten

engaged and we were just navigating so many things related to family and money and how are we

going to move forward. Or like Priya Parker, one of my favorite guests on this podcast where we

talked about intentional wedding planning.

She said, weddings or the planning of a wedding answer this big question of how now shall we live?

And in answering that question of how now shall we live, we needed a little bit support.

So we found this amazing couples therapist who changed

us in so many ways, even though we don't see him that often, maybe a handful of times per year,

the teachings and just knowing that he is there for us when we need him, having his presence kind of be in our oras as we go about

our relational activities, it just really helps us show up better. So I cannot recommend it enough.

But this one thing my couples therapist said to me still rings in my mind. Every time I have a bit of tension with someone, it can be with my husband

or maybe a family member, a friend, literally anyone. If you're mid-argument or fight, this also

helps so much. And I realized how powerful it was when a few months back,

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