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Hello and welcome to Happier, a podcast where we discuss cutting edge science, the wisdom of the ages, lessons from pop culture, and our own experiences about how to be happier.

This week we'll talk with the brilliant actor singer and writer Melissa Eroko about why you might try the eight stones method.

And I'll share a know yourself better question that was tremendously illuminating for me.

I'm Gretchen Rubin, a writer whose studies happen, it's Good Habits in Human Nature.

I'm in New York City and with me is my sister Elizabeth Kraft and Elizabeth, you and I differ on this know yourself better question I think.

That's me Elizabeth Kraft, a TV writer and producer living in Los Angeles.

And yes Gretchen we're going to have to get into it and discuss our difference of opinion.

Yes, yes. Now quit before we jump in and update.

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