This week I talk about the core reason behind the breakdown of a relationship and I offer

up seven steps for calming down from a negative self-talk spiral.

I'm Natalie Lou, a writer based in southeast London who is dedicated to helping people to improve

their emotional and relationship literacy. Let's kick this off.

When I talk to people about why their previous relationship broke down or why they feel that a current relationship

isn't working.

What becomes evident is that there was a lot of blindness

to recognizing sort of the core reasons

for why a relationship breaks down.

People get lost in this sort of almost granular detail of sort of

of sort of blame or blaming others.

And of course, there are experiences and stories that we have to tell about our relationships.

But if we don't recognize what certain things that are taking place actually mean and how that

relates to why the relationship broke down, then we can't understand. place actually

works for us.

works for us.

When a relationship breaks down,

it breaks down for a few key reasons that all boil down to one

singular reason and that is incompatibility. Inc compatibility is about ultimately you both want different things.

It comes down to unable to coexist harmoniously and a clash somewhere about core values.

So the first reason why a relationship might break down is because it was incompatible from the outset. Now typically this is going to

come down to one or two things.

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