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Hello and welcome to Happier, a podcast where we discuss cutting edge science,

the wisdom of the ages, lessons from pop culture and our own experiences about how to be happier.

This week we'll talk about why it's helpful to have your words ready when you're facing a tough situation

and we'll talk to the brilliant Simon Synic, author of the new book The Infinite Game.

I'm Gretchen Rubin, a writer whose studies happiness, good habits in human nature.

I'm in New York City and with me is my sister Elizabeth Kraft, my sister the sage.

That's me Elizabeth Kraft, a TV writer and producer living in LA.

And Gretchen I have to say even though I talk a lot, sometimes I don't have the right words.

It's a constant struggle for us all.

And Elizabeth we're coming up at our last set of live events.

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