Ep. 23: Better To Repeat Positive Affirmations Rather Than Negative Untruths
The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
Natalie Lue
4.9 • 867 Ratings
🗓️ 12 February 2016
⏱️ 43 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, Natalie delves into the tricky subject of name-calling and swearing at someone in an argument and whether this is really 'OK', plus she shares three key admissions - admitting where you've made a mistake, admitting what you don't know, and admitting what you're pretending not to know - that keep us human and humble, and she explains some of the benefits of affirmations including sharing some of her personal experiences of them transforming how she was feeling. This week's listener wants to know how to deal with a partner that shuts down discussion and Natalie shares what she's learned this week.
Free resources referred to in this episode:
- Unsent Letter Guide: http://bit.ly/NatsULG
- Feelings Diary: http://bit.ly/FeelingsDiary
- Affirmations "I am safe. I am secure. All is well", "I trust my higher self. I listen with love to my inner voice. I release all that is unlike the action of love". "I always deserve love, care, trust and respect".
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| 0:00.0 | This week I share some of the insights into the benefits that I've experienced from affirmations. |
| 0:09.1 | Plus, I ask whether it really is okay to be name-calling and swearing at somebody in an argument. |
| 0:16.5 | I'm Natalie Lou, a writer based in Southeast London who is dedicated to helping people to improve their emotional and relationship literacy. |
| 0:25.0 | Let's kick this off. |
| 0:27.0 | It's understood when we get into a conflict situation that we get annoyed, upset, angry and possibly lose our temper, possibly |
| 0:38.4 | going on to say things in the heat of the moment that don't reflect who we are in the main |
| 0:44.7 | or that are coming from a place of frustration and defensiveness and so have the |
| 0:49.6 | potential to be distorted and hurtful to the other party. But in this first part of the show, I want to know, are we crossing a line when we swear a name call in an argument? Swearing in an argument are two different things. |
| 1:10.0 | I'm not averse to swearing. I will put some of that down to my upbringing and you know I was brought up in Ireland where you know we we do |
| 1:20.3 | Swear in certain contexts and it's sort of to express shock and excitement or you know or disbelief or |
| 1:28.7 | or yes annoyance and that is often a point of humour but that's very very different to |
| 1:36.7 | swearing in the context of like swearing at someone in an argument and a name calling. |
| 1:44.0 | And so I guess that would be the sort of the difference between you're in an argument and you're talking, |
| 1:51.0 | so you're expressing your frustration about something so the things that have gone on to |
| 1:55.9 | bring up the conflict and so you might use swear words in the description but that is different to like swearing at the |
| 2:07.1 | person and calling them names or calling them like a beep beep beep stupid |
| 2:11.3 | beep beep at that point when we are sort of swearing at someone in that manner |
| 2:17.8 | and bringing a name calling in all sorts I think that's where we really have to recognize that we are crossing a boundary. |
| 2:26.0 | I don't swear all the time, but there are contexts I think where it provides sweet relief |
| 2:32.0 | and it sort of perfectly sums at the moment and or the |
| 2:35.4 | transgression or my mood. |
| 2:37.8 | But in an argument as I say you know where I will be I might swear in the description or express in that frustration. |
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