This week I explain why only trying to change the other parties behavior isn't going to fix a boundary issue.

Plus, I share what I learned about the need to acknowledge your inner child.

I'm Natalie Lou, a writer based in Southeast London who is dedicated to helping people

to improve their emotional and relationship literacy.

Let's kick this off.

I'm going to hold my hand up and admit that I'm not really into Valentine's

and never really have been. thankfully I'm married to somebody who

feel similarly we're just not really into it we've given the odd card here or there and

I think now that the kids, thanks to school, are far more aware of things

like Valentine's, you know, we'll kind of do a nod to it really, you know, and kind of do a sort

of celebratory year, we all love each other, but we're not really into the whole Valentine's Day thing as a whole.

What I find fascinating in writing Baggidry claim and talking to people all the time about love and

relationships and just what's going on in their lives is realizing that a lot of

people do stress themselves out about Valentine's and it's not just single

people that do it that's the

misconception as well like oh like it's only people who were single who stress out

about Valentine's people who are in relationships stress out about

Valentine's and so in this part of the show that's what I want to talk about like

why do we get stressed out about it and what can we sort of ask ourselves to

to really kind of calm things down? What's important to remember is that Valentine's Day is a Hallmark Day

and it actually has become something rather commercial. That's not to take away

from the sentiment of it which is that it's supposed to be about a day that celebrates

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