Ep. 217: Don’t Over-Consult

Happier with Gretchen Rubin

Gretchen Rubin / The Onward Project

Education, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

4.7 • 13K Ratings

🗓️ 17 April 2019

⏱️ 28 minutes

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Summary

“Why you should stop over-consulting, a hack to make exercising more convenient, and a question for self-knowledge: When you’re upset, do you feel it in your body or in your head?” Get tickets for Gretchen's book tour and Happier podcast live events at: http://gretchenrubin.com/events Get in touch on Instagram: @GretchenRubin & @LizCraft Get the podcast show notes by email every week here: http://gretchenrubin.com/#newsletter Order a copy of Gretchen’s new book OUTER ORDER, INNER CALM here: http://outerorderinnercalmbook.com Get the resources and all links related to this episode here:http://happiercast.com/217 Leave a voicemail message on: 774-277-9336 To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcript

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0:00.0	Hello and welcome to Happier, a podcast about how to find concrete manageable ways to make our lives happier, healthier, more productive and more creative.
0:08.0	This week we'll talk about why you should stop over consulting, a problem for both of us, and we'll discuss a hack that makes it easier to exercise.
0:18.0	I'm Gretchen Rubin, a writer who studies happiness, good habits, outer order and human nature. I'm in New York City and with me is my sister Elizabeth Kraft, and Elizabeth we have some great sisterly adventures coming up.
0:39.0	That's me Elizabeth Kraft, a TV writer and producer living in LA, and yes Gretchen I'm getting so excited for our live shows.
0:47.0	We're going to be a New York City Milwaukee Detroit and Minneapolis, our disembodied voices will be live on stage.
0:55.0	Yeah, now some of the shows are sold out or just about sold out, but I know like with Milwaukee Detroit please come, bring your friends.
1:03.0	You can get all the info at GretchenRubin.com slash events and of course I'll put a link to that in the show notes.
1:10.0	Yeah, Gretchen we have to get our outfits planned.
1:14.0	Yes, very important.
1:16.0	Yes, yes, yes, we have so much to get ready.
1:19.0	Now, Liz at this week I tried this at home tip is don't over consult.
1:25.0	Yes, this is a big one. I can't believe it's taken us 270 episodes to get to this.
1:31.0	Now, I realize that I have been over consulting probably since day one and mostly with Jamie, mostly with my husband.
1:40.0	And what I realized is that when I over consult I'm trying to spare myself decision fatigue by talking things through or asking him to consult with me.
1:50.0	When in fact I should just make the call like I often will say to him what time should I leave for the airport when I'm traveling by myself.
1:56.0	It's like or what time should I run this errand on the weekend because I just don't want to bother figuring it out.
2:02.0	And so I sort of try to voice it off on him.
2:05.0	I'm consulting on something that really just doesn't need to be consulted with.
2:08.0	I do this with Adam and it drives him absolutely crazy.
2:12.0	Gretchen, now what form does it take with you?
2:15.0	A lot of times it'll be like what time do you want to have dinner Friday night or where do you want to go to dinner with so and so Saturday night or
2:24.0	what flight should I book?
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