This week I talk about the importance of being mindful about where we are using sarcasm.

Plus, I explain why doing a writer based in Southeast London who is dedicated to helping people to improve their emotional and relationship literacy.

Let's kick this off.

Do you know how I started blogging? It was after a bad date in early June 2004 that left me wondering why I couldn't seem to like nice guys despite my professed desire to be in a relationship

and to basically stop going out with guys who mess me around and couldn't commit.

What isn't necessarily widely known is about how my sense of humour on that occasion,

which is admittedly very influenced by my Irish upbringing,

caused me to get into some trouble on my dates where I basically hurt his feelings and caused offense.

Long story short, my date was a policeman who was training to be a detective and after about a 10 minute walk from where we parked the car to where we were headed to go out for something to eat.

He realized that he didn't have his

mobile phone.

I would admit that I was a bit relieved to have what I thought was going to be about 10 minutes or so to myself

because the date wasn't really going particularly well. He was quite he was

excessively passive and on top of that I he'd asked me if he wanted to go if I wanted to go to the cinema what I would like to see and we'd rocked up to the cinema and he hadn't booked a ticket and everything was booked out because it was like a Harry Potter

you know launch weekend anyway I digress so he says he's gonna go back to the car I'm like yay

I'm gonna be on my own for a bit I'm just gonna people watch and he comes back

within like three four minutes looking rather sheepish and admits that he realized that

his mobile phone was actually in his trouser pocket and it was just too easy a joke to make and I

Wiescrat oh well I wouldn't go hurry in to be a detective if I were you and burst out laughing at my own sense of humour and watched his face fall and he was furious with me and it took many many apologies before he would you know sort

of sort of drop it and and it did sort of cast quite a sour shadow over the evening and I got thinking about that date recently as I

recalled a number of stories that I've been told over the last one about dates that

have become quite fraught or where it didn't get to a second or third date because

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