That's actually one of our like gospels, for lack of a better term, is that desire is actually the ultimate thing.

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Jeff and Jeremy here.

Another fun topic for today.

And that is the concept or the fact that you have to remind yourself that we are raising wise adults, not coddling foolish children.

This is deeply, deeply important, and you have to have this in the back of your mind as you're parenting.

Because if you don't have the long play in mind, if you don't have the future in mind, it will change how you parent right now. It absolutely will change how you parent when they ask for something that you don't want them to have, when they cry, when they whine. It will completely change how you live in that situation based on the, and that's even true, by the way, of anything, right? Our future hope, how we live as a Christian is based on the future hope we think we will see in the future. Future hope or the future vision always will inform the present. And that's deeply,

deeply important. But Jeremy, what would you say about this or what's your thoughts behind this?

We talk a lot about how important it is to be both a high demand, high support parent.

And so a lot of times when you find yourself sort of having a difficult time

with the high demand side, maybe you're really good at supporting your kids, showing that you love

them, enjoying their childhood. But when they really need you to be a little bit more like,

no, you're going to stick with this. You know, you made a commitment. You're going to follow through

with this. I need you to step up.

You find yourself really giving in in those times. One of the tools that you need to really begin

to employ, and there's really a key to this, and that is you need to begin to imagine your kids

in the future, probably in, like, I always think of it of the mid-30s, right? So if one of my kids

is, like, really struggling with just talking to, like, Sydney the other day about this, I just said, hey, Sydney, the reason why I'm saying I need to stick with this is because I care more about what the 34-year-old Sydney thinks than what the 15-year-old Sydney thinks, right? And this goes all the way down to when your kids are really little. I am trying, my vision is for that adult, wise woman to look back on the way that I

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