This is feminist wellness and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, functional medicine expert and life coach Victoria Albina. I'll be full heart. Welcome my love. Let's get started.

Hello hello my love. I am so delighted to be highlighting episode 18 negative self-talk for you this week.

I chose this episode because it feels really foundational.

Really starting to think about the ways we think about and talk about ourselves is so key as we get to know ourselves and as we decide who we want to be in the world, how we want to move through the world.

For human socializes women in particular,

we are so often taught to denigrate ourselves,

to talk shit about our bodies,

to downplay our smarts lest someone's fragile

masculinity takes a hit in the presence of our brilliance. We are taught and trained to

speak and think negatively about ourselves, to ourselves and to anyone who will listen.

We say things like, I'm not sure this makes sense, but when we totally know what we're saying

makes sense, and sometimes it shows up as really having a hard time taking a compliment.

Oh, you think I look great?

I just like threw this on.

I don't know, I've gained some weight over the pandemic.

And beyond these sorts of things... I don't know I've gained some weight over the pandemic.

And beyond these sorts of things that we say out loud,

we say all sorts of mean things to ourselves all day,

things that keep us in that spiral of thinking

we aren't worthy, of love, of care, of kindness, of human

compassion, of being met in our relationships, and so of course we aren't anchored

in a powerful sense of self. Of course we keep taking crumbs of love-like

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