Ep 109: Elegant Excellence Leadership (negative comments, cancel culture + gossip)

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🗓️ 21 April 2021

⏱️ 79 minutes

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Summary

A self-help author recently made some problematic posts, and my thoughts on the controversy was the most requested topic this week.

In full disclosure: in this episode I neither mention her name, nor analyze her posts.

This conversation isn’t about her as I’m far less interested in the missteps of individuals than the bigger picture of how we want to act and react ourselves in and around these situations.

What does it look like to lead and love, with elegance and excellence?

There are big questions in this episode.

In the years, months, even weeks that follow, I reserve the right to change or expand or shift my thoughts on them!

That’s the nature of complex conversations.

They don’t have easy answers.

Which opens them up for allll the criticism and critique. So today’s talk comes with a caveat:

If at any point you feel yourself getting defensive, pause and walk away.

(When we get hot, we can no longer hear with love, and thus respond from love. Who might get hot? Oh Christians, non religious, conservatives, activists -- I’ve got enough experience under my belt to know 1 in 1,000 will get triggered no matter what I say or how carefully I try to say it. And we speak to that in and of itself today.)

This conversation is about how we love ourselves and others well.

I invite you to be curious alongside me today, explore our own heads and hearts before anyone else’s, and consider how we can truly make the world a kinder place for all.

Mentioned in today’s episode:

Glennon Doyle’s Effects of #PassTheMic IGTV
Instagram Katie Sturino
Instagram Jameela Jamil
Instagram The Blachelorettes
Instagram Carlos Whittaker
Article on community changes (Title: “What traffic enforcement without the police could look like”)
Thesaurus on accountability + related feelings
Galatians 6:2-5 in the Message
Matthew 18: 15-17 New Living Translation
Documentary The Feminist in Cellblock Y

Transcript

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0:00.0	friend. Can I read you something? Beth wrote, timing is everything. I just binge Hillary's podcast
0:05.8	this weekend. Saying I love it doesn't seem to be enough. Saying it was like she was speaking
0:10.7	right to me doesn't seem to be enough. This came at the exact right time. Thanks Hillary for being
0:16.8	brave and vulnerable. Thank you for all of your wonderful advice. Thank you for you being you
0:22.0	and guiding me to see that I can be happy being me. Oh Beth, I love that last line so much that I can
0:28.1	be happy being me. That is my hope for each of us every single week in the time that we spend
0:33.1	here together that you would leave feeling a little bit more competent, peaceful, hopeful,
0:38.4	inspired, encouraged, and exactly who you are, what you desire in the world and how you're showing
0:43.8	up. That is my hope for this very special episode today. And today also is a special date as it is
0:50.1	the two-year anniversary of this podcast. So if at any point you have been blessed by an episode of
0:56.3	this and you have not yet left a review, I am so grateful for you. Number 1119-2021-22-22-24-25
1:04.8	who pauses this swipes up and leaves a bright, brief, and beautiful review of what your time here
1:11.0	is like. And with that, let us get into the show. Don't get your budgie smuggle is in a bunch.
1:18.0	You're welcome. What was that? You're welcome with Hillary Rushford. Say it again. You're welcome.
1:29.4	In advance. My dears, as I said today is the two-year anniversary of this podcast. Happy
1:38.2	birthday. Happy birthday. It makes me feel like I should have some sort of recap episode. It makes
1:45.2	me want to wax poetic and think about all the things that I didn't know and how different my life
1:50.5	was two years ago and a myriad of things. However, we're not going to do that today because I got asked
1:56.7	repeatedly in my DMs. And when I posted a little question box and my stories to say, what do you want
2:03.3	to talk about upcoming on the podcast? I got asked to speak about this topic. And it's one that I
2:09.2	actually taught a longer class on in my elegant excellence mastermind last week. And so I'd already
2:14.1	been thinking a lot about. And yet I will say I spent about three hours crafting this script today
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