Hi, Laura here. Happy Thanksgiving.

The Dating While Gray team is taking a break this week, but we wanted to give you something to listen to while you're enjoying your holiday,

whether you're cooking or cleaning or driving, taking a walk, or working out.

Maybe you just need some relief from TV football.

So we dug into the archives and dusted off one of my personal favorites from season one.

It's called Custom Built Commitment, and it features three stories of defining a relationship

on your own terms.

I talk with legendary women's basketball coach Elaine Elliott, a couple who met randomly in a thrift store, and public radio icon Diane Ream.

Please enjoy.

I'm Laura Stasi, and this is Dating While Gray, the grown-ups guide to love, sex, and relationships.

On this episode, three stories of defining commitment on your own terms. My Aunt Mary Jane was divorced the first time around and widowed the second time.

Then, when she was 79, she got married for the third time. And like she did in her other two

marriages, she took her

husband's last name. I think of Aunt Mary Jane as a strong woman ahead of her time, but she did

choose a very traditional way of expressing romantic commitment. She got married, changed her name.

That's certainly what I did. I got married, changed my name. And for many people, this is the ideal way to express commitment. According to one study, people 50 and older who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender, are more likely than younger LGBT adults to choose same-sex marriage over simply living together.

Of course, LGBT couples haven't always had that option, but I think it shows that whether you're gay or straight, marriage seems like the best way to prove you're committed to someone.

So, yay marriage, if that's your thing.

But if there's anything I've learned since becoming single,

it's that marriage isn't the only way to demonstrate commitment. We have options,

whereas one sociologist described it, different ways of organizing your life. Organizing your life,

I really like that phrase, because to me, it emphasizes that we're in control. We can custom build

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