Embracing Endings: James Sexton on Life, Death, Love, and Powerful Relationship Negotiation | Part 2

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🗓️ 16 January 2026

⏱️ 65 minutes

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Welcome back to another enlightening episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu. In today’s conversation, Tom Bilyeu sits down with renowned divorce attorney and bestselling author James sexton for a candid, deeply reflective dialogue on the sometimes uncomfortable, always fascinating realities of relationships, endings, and what it means to live—and love—fully. James sexton isn’t just a powerhouse in the courtroom; he’s a seeker of truth when it comes to human connection and life’s biggest questions. This episode dives into his hottest takes on marriage, gender roles, and why negotiating within a partnership isn’t as taboo as people think. The conversation veers into the profound, as James sexton shares the life-altering perspective he gained from being both a hospice volunteer and a divorce lawyer—two roles that have shaped his view on the preciousness of time, love, and the inevitability of endings. You’ll hear thought-provoking insights on why most of us need to face the impermanence of life head-on, how gratitude changes everything, and why embracing tough conversations can actually deepen intimacy. Get ready to rethink the purpose of relationships, the way we talk about sex and partnership, and the stories we tell ourselves about success and fulfillment. This is not just a discussion about divorce; it’s a wake-up call to appreciate the finite beauty of every connection we have. So settle in—today’s episode is packed with raw honesty, practical wisdom, and the kind of perspective shift that might just change the way you approach your most important relationships. Quince: Free shipping and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/impactpodHomeServe: Help protect your home systems – and your wallet – with HomeServe against covered repairs. Plans start at just $4.99 a month at https://homeserve.comCape: 33% off your first 6 months with code IMPACT at https://cape.co/impactShopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/impactSumm: code TOMVIP20 for 20% off your first year at https://summ.com?via=tombilyeu&coupon=TOMVIP20AirDoctor: Up to $300 off with code IMPACT at https://airdoctorpro.com Pique: 20% off at https://piquelife.com/impactKetone IQ: Visit https://ketone.com/IMPACT for 30% OFF your subscription orderNetSuite: Right now, get our free business guide, Demystifying AI, at https://NetSuite.com/TheoryBevel Health: Visit https://bevel.health/impact and use code IMPACT to get your first month free. What's up, everybody? It's Tom Bilyeu here: If you want my help... STARTING a business: join me here at ZERO TO FOUNDER: https://tombilyeu.com/zero-to-founder?utm_campaign=Podcast%20Offer&utm_source=podca[%E2%80%A6]d%20end%20of%20show&utm_content=podcast%20ad%20end%20of%20show SCALING a business: see if you qualify here.: https://tombilyeu.com/call Get my battle-tested strategies and insights delivered weekly to your inbox: sign up here.: https://tombilyeu.com/ ********************************************************************** If you're serious about leveling up your life, I urge you to check out my new podcast, Tom Bilyeu’s Mindset Playbook —a goldmine of my most impactful episodes on mindset, business, and health. Trust me, your future self will thank you. ********************************************************************** FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tombilyeu?lang=en Twitter: https://twitter.com/tombilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TomBilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Welcome back to part two of this incredible conversation. Without further ado, here we go.
0:08.4	What's the most controversial thing that you believe that you're like, oh God. This one is so true,
0:15.6	but it gets me canceled? Is this the, you'll never get canceled. You're too good at what you do.
0:20.4	I know it's the best thing about it.
0:21.7	Yes.
0:22.7	Thank God, I have to tell you, thank God I have a profession I'm really good at because it's the only way I haven't gotten killed for the stuff that I say. Because you know, early on in my career, some of my colleagues, or not early on in my media career, I should say. Like I was already very established attorney for the last 25 years and I only really started
0:36.2	the media thing like two years ago.
0:38.0	And some of my colleagues were like, are you, are you afraid this is going to screw up your legal
0:41.1	brand? I was like, not at all. Like, I'm just great in a courtroom. Like that's at the end of the day. Like people don't care. Like if I, listen, I'm like a progressive person, but if I needed like a very specialized surgery and they said, look, this guy, he's the best guy in the world at this surgery, but he's racist. I'd be like, I want him to do the surgery. Like, I want to have dinner with him. I'm not friends with him. Like, is he really good at the surgery? Cool. Like, just do the surgery, man. Like, the same thing for me. Like, I don't worry about it. but the hottest take I have on relationship, it's all going to
1:11.7	be gender-based stuff because gender stuff is so fraught right now. It's so fraught right now. Well, it is crazy to me, but I get it. I don't. Like, really? You don't get it. I think it is absurd. I think people are shooting themselves in the face or to use your language. They're stepping on the rake over and over and over.
1:27.8	But you don't think that it was born of good intentions.
1:30.3	Like I really believe that some of this stuff was born of good intentions. Fine. I literally don't care. My thing is what works. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, you're, you're, I get that you're like outcome focused and you're also like, I want to look at the truth. I don't wanna like what I wish was true. Like I don't live in the should. Like oh well it shouldn't be this way. Okay, whatever it shouldn't be. Like it is. This is what it is, you know. So I totally get that. But I think we have to if we're gonna like function as a culture. Maybe it's because I argue for a living.
2:01.5	I'm very interested in understanding why other people feel the way they feel. Like people like vigorously disagree with. Like I want to understand where we diverge. I want to understand like because I genuinely believe like if you were right, I would agree with you. You know, and I want to believe that like, you know, there know there's I don't I don't know that I don't believe that like people are evil I think
2:21.9	that people aren't evil they do evil things because they mistake it for happiness
2:26.9	but I don't think that they do it like insidiously nefariously like I think they're
2:30.5	short-sighted I think they they don't realize what the second order effects are going to be.
2:34.4	I'm very impressed that you do what you do for a living and are able to hold that.
2:38.5	I think some people are evil, but that's a frame of referencing.
2:41.6	You were going somewhere with a gender thing.
2:43.5	Yeah, I think gender, look, I think if we went back to a very traditional economic structure in this country where
2:55.1	women were at home and men were working, it would be better for the divorce rate.
3:02.2	Like we would not have as many divorces.
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