This is I'm your host Ryan Nidell and today's episode is listener requested domestic violence.

So this is a unique episode for me.

There are times and places where people have reached out to me and

ask for my input or thoughts on a specific topic. And domestic violence happens to be the topic for today.

And it's not going to be a big surprise anybody that listens. I'm, of course, not for domestic violence.

And I have a lot of thoughts that go into this that I'm going to just free flow through and hopefully provides clarity for those that we're looking for it.

So no surprise to most of you, I say that a little facetiously a woman

reach out to me on social media privately and direct message and said and shared how much she enjoyed this podcast and how much value she's got out of it and asked if I would mind sharing my thoughts on domestic violence and how to handle that.

And obviously like my heart sank because I'm a fixer by nature and I want to make sure this woman's okay and that she's protected and for all I know it's not anything

to do with her.

It could be a best friend, it could be your mother, it could be someone she works with.

So I don't need to be so obtuse as to assume that it's her.

But what I will assume is the fact that someone out there listening to

this is in an abusive relationship in one form or another. And it's a shame.

You know it's a shame on both sides.

I can speak to it from the standpoint of a man first,

that never, ever, ever, is it okay to raise your hand to a woman?

I don't care if the woman's hitting you.

My ex-girlfriend, when she found out that I was cheating on her, jumped on my back and proceeded to punch me and scratch me and hit me.

And she was justified in her actions in the moment from the rage that she felt based off my actions.

Even in that moment when I was being attacked, being a man of superior size and strength to

her, I was able to calmly position my mind that I could wait until she

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