E193: Gabor Mate: The Childhood Lie That’s Ruining All Of Our Lives.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

FlightStory

Society & Culture, Business, Education

4.6 • 13.2K Ratings

🗓️ 7 November 2022

⏱️ 119 minutes

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Summary

Gabor Mate is a multi-bestselling author and a world leading expert on trauma and how it effects us throughout our whole lives. A holocaust survivor and a first generation immigrant, Gabor’s knowledge and wisdom on the scars trauma leaves behind is deep and drawn from personal experience.

In a conversation that unlocks the answers to people’s most burning questions about trauma, mental health, ADHD, and the hidden hardwire of our brain, Gabor brings us one step closer to really knowing ourselves and our inner urges.

Gabor’s voice, both literally and in terms of what he has to say, is like a balm for anyone who’s mental health has ever caused them worries. Gabor has been through things few of us can ever imagine, and his insights are those few of us could ever have thought of before.

Topics:

Early context
How does someone correct their traumatic events?
How did your traumatic event show shape you?
What did you focus on in your career?
What did working with patients towards the end of their life teach you?
The importance of following our passion
The Myth Of Normal
How would our approaches change if we took away the concept of normal?
How parents behaviour can impact a child
How do you define trauma?
Does everyone have trauma?
Why can two people with the same trauma turn out differently?
Being controlled by our trauma
Do we ever cut the putter master strings?
How does someone become more aware?
Additions and how we develop them
How do we find our sense of worth?
Why is authenticity so important
Taking personal responsibility
The 5 Rs to take control of your life
ADHD
Do you think society is getting more toxic?
What are you still struggling with?
The last guest’s question

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Financial stress on the parents
0:02.2	translates into physiological stress in the children.
0:04.6	They didn't inherit anything in terms of a disease.
0:07.2	They just reacting to the environment.
0:09.2	People call Dr. Gablematsé the people whisper.
0:12.4	Legendary thinker and best-selling author.
0:14.6	He's highly sought-after for his expertise on addiction, stress, and childhood development.
0:19.6	The evidence linking mental illness and childhood adversity
0:23.0	is about as strong as the evidence linking smoking and lung cancer.
0:26.5	And the average physician doesn't hear a word about that.
0:29.4	It's astonishing.
0:30.4	I can give you the example of a Donald Trump.
0:32.8	I mean his father was a psychopath.
0:35.0	You are the enemy of the people.
0:36.4	Go ahead.
0:36.8	For him, these were not choices so much as survival techniques.
0:40.9	And that's the mark of a traumatized child, a denial of reality.
0:45.3	What do I have to understand about your earliest years to understand you?
0:49.5	My grandparents were killed in Auschwitz.
0:51.2	And my mother and I barely survived.
0:53.2	And then my mother, to save my life,
0:55.3	gives me to a stranger.
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