E190: Am I Being Reasonable Or Ridiculous?

Pillow Talks

Vanessa & Xander Marin

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.8 • 2.2K Ratings

🗓️ 9 January 2025

⏱️ 53 minutes

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Have you ever wanted something from your partner, but found yourself wondering, “Am I asking too much?” Or has your partner ever asked you for something that didn’t feel reasonable to you? We asked our community to share some of their questionable relationship requests, and the responses were fascinating! Tune in as we break down the line between what’s reasonable, what’s ridiculous, and what’s simply part of being in a relationship. Links & Resources: Your Best Week Ever is designed to give the maximum impact for minimum effort. ****Ready to reignite your love life in just 7 days? ➡︎ https://shop.vmtherapy.com/your-best-week-ever/?ref=podcast-190&utm_term=podcast-190 Treat Your Partner to the Best F0replay they've ever had: https://shop.vmtherapy.com/foreplay-guides-2022/?ref=podcast-190&utm_term=podcast-190 Check out our NYT best selling book Sex Talks: ➡︎ https://sextalksbook.com/?ref=podcast-190&utm_term=podcast-190 Connect with us! 👋 Instagram ➡︎ https://instagram.com/vanessaandxander Our VIP Email list: ➡︎ https://vmtherapy.com/subscribe Thanks Remi. Head to shopremi.com/PILLOW and use code PILLOW to save up to 50%. Thanks OneSkin. Get started today with 15% off using code PILLOW at oneskin.co. Thanks Orgain. Head to Orgain.com/PILLOW and use code PILLOW for 30% off your order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Is it reasonable to make my wife go buy a $10,000 wedding dress, even though we're not getting
0:05.2	married just so I can fuck her in it?
0:13.6	Hello and welcome to the Pillow Talks podcast. We're your host, Vanessa, and Zander Marin.
0:19.8	I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience.
0:22.8	And I'm just a regular dude.
0:24.4	We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours.
0:30.1	Make sure you subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice,
0:36.6	hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on
0:39.8	behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you'd had.
0:46.9	Today we are tackling the question, is this reasonable? So we turned to our Instagram community
0:54.0	and we said, is there something that you have been wanting from your partner? But you're just not sure if it's a reasonable request to make of them. Can you even ask that? Yeah. Like, is that okay for me to ask that? It's okay for me to want that. Or maybe it's the other way around. And your partner made a request of you or there's something
1:11.1	that they want from you and you're left wondering like I don't know about that. So we asked for
1:18.2	stories like this and we got we got some good ones. I'm so excited to dive into some of these
1:25.2	examples because they are truly fascinating. We were looking for
1:29.1	ones that like kind of above and beyond, you know, obviously we got a lot of like, oh, I want to
1:33.2	have more sex or like I want us to have date nights, but we got some like very unusual ones that I'm
1:39.5	very excited to to break apart. Yeah, I mean, I think the bottom line is a lot of people are sitting on
1:45.8	things like this, sitting on things that they kind of want, needs that they have, requests that they
1:51.8	have, desires that they want to ask but aren't. And yeah, let's talk about how you actually take
1:59.8	some action on that, whether that action is having the conversation or the action is deciding that maybe this is unreasonable and see if there's some other ways to get what it is that you are wanting.
2:11.0	But before that, we're going to get into this week's review of the week.
2:14.9	Reviews are the best way to help our podcast grow. They go so far in helping
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