E134: The Single Biggest Killer Of Relationships: Lewis Howes

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

FlightStory

Society & Culture, Business, Education

4.6 • 13.2K Ratings

🗓️ 14 April 2022

⏱️ 94 minutes

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Summary

Lewis is the host of The School of Greatness podcast and the author of The Mask of Masculinity. An icon of American self-development, Lewis’ podcast has been downloaded hundreds of millions of times, and helped hundreds of millions of people.

But the first person Lewis had to help is himself. Someone who always ran towards things that made him feel safe, whether that be towards working out, towards the need to get girls to like him, or away from his trauma.

But an outside injury, and a reckoning with his inside trauma, meant Lewis had to start from zero. What strikes me about Lewis is someone who’s come so far after his life was turned upside down. When his world was spinning around, Lewis saw the way forwards.

Topics:

Healing my childhood trauma
What were the dynamics with your parents?
What was the impact of your dad’s accident on you?
Importance of communicating with your parents
Learning the art of emotional regulation / Allowing myself to be vulnerable changed my life
Why I didn’t compromise my core values (and being honest in your relationships)
The power of honesty in relationships
Knowing your values and vision
Balancing work and relationships
Biggest killer of relationships
Overcoming my fear of public speaking
How do I find meaning and happiness?
Why does helping people matter to you?
Our last guest's question

Lewis:

https://twitter.com/LewisHowes

https://www.instagram.com/lewishowes

Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheDiaryOfACEO/videos

Sponsors:

Huel - https://my.huel.com/Steven

Craftd - https://bit.ly/3JKOPFx

Transcript

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0:00.0	Could you do me a quick favor if you're listening to this please hit the follow or subscribe button
0:03.6	It helps more than you know and we invite subscribers in every month to watch the showing person
0:08.0	Am I doing everything in my power to live the way I want to live because if it could be over in a moment
0:13.5	I got to shift my attention to things that really matter
0:18.0	Former professional football player turn lifestyle entrepreneur
0:21.3	It was making millions of dollars and helping others achieve their dreams New York Times best-selling author school of greatness
0:27.4	Please welcome Lewis
0:29.4	You have been very very open about the abusive stuff had when you were five
0:33.0	I mean, I knew something was wrong. I knew something was off every single day for 25 years
0:37.7	I thought about it
0:38.4	I needed to heal the memories of the past in order to create a
0:42.5	Healthy relationship with myself and others in the present the challenges most men have not been taught how to
0:50.1	Effectively communicate their guilt their insecurities
0:53.2	Constantly working on yourself is huge in intimacy and relationships. What is the single biggest killer of
1:02.4	Relationships I'm gonna say something right now that you're probably not gonna like
1:07.0	So without further ado, I'm Stephen Bartlett and this is the director of a CEO
1:11.3	I hope nobody's listening, but if you are then please keep this yourself. I have to start with a
1:25.5	With a point of gratitude, which is thank you so much for doing this
1:28.6	You are and I don't say this lightly, but you are one of the real inspirations for me in this whole
1:33.8	Podcasting content space because you've been you're like the goat in my eyes
1:37.4	You're the guy that did it first in in our space and did it best at the same time
1:42.2	But not just that when I got to meet you maybe a month ago in Dubai
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