Your natural instinct is to step in and save your child from a

predicament, a struggle, and certainly we have gone through that. My wife and I,

there was a time when one of our children was

failing a class and we really, really intervened in a way I wish we wouldn't have because ultimately it didn't address the problem in the long run.

We do need to let our children learn from experience. I'm John Fuller along with our vice

president of parenting Dr Danny

I'm sure you see parents all the time who are trying to intervene in ways that

just aren't helpful. That's so true.

It's very common with, especially with kids that are more anxious.

Parents feel a sense of the need to rescue them

from any type of pain because they're already anxious to begin with and so they begin making all the decisions for this anxious child and the anxious child then in turn freezes when they have to make decisions on their own

and it makes it hard for that child to gain confidence in who they are and be able to conquer the fears and anxiety that they're wrestling with.

Many times when we face difficulties, it comes face to face with our insecurities and the

more that we're able to conquer those moments of

insecurity that the better it is as we get older and we try to make a decision not

based on insecurity but based on the confidence we gain as we overcome certain things.

And so as parents many times with great intentions, we sometimes do make a decision in an intersection that's important for our kids and we

can all say we've been guilty of that but I've seen it most commonly with parents

of anxious children and just no this isn't about shaming but just an awareness for us

as parents. Yeah I want to just assure parents you may not even realize you're

doing this you might not know that you're meddling you're intervening you're doing this. You might not know that you're meddling, you're intervening,

you're doing too much. Just ask God to reveal that to you. I think he will. Let's return now to a conversation

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