Don’t Beat Yourself Up: Learning Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff
The Going Scared Podcast with Jessica Honegger
Jessica Honegger
5.0 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 23 May 2018
⏱️ 48 minutes
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Summary
Why is it that we’re so often able to show wells of compassion for other people, but can rarely find it for ourselves? In today’s episode, Dr. Kristin Neff will help us answer this question. Kristin is widely recognized as one of the world’s leading experts on self-compassion, being the first one to operationally define and measure the construct over a decade ago. She is currently an Associate Professor at the University of Texas at Austin and examines why we take this less-than-kind approach with ourselves, and how we basically respond with a “fight or flight” approach to ourselves--thinking that we can “whip ourselves into shape.” Kristin shows us that we really don’t have to beat ourselves up to change, and she outlines the steps to developing self-compassion. She encourages us that when we show the same kindness, support and encouragement to ourselves that we show others, we will radically change our lives.
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| 0:00.0 | Hey, it's Jessica Honegger, founder of the socially conscious fashion brand Noonday |
| 0:07.1 | collection. Welcome to the Going Scared Podcast. Hey, welcome back. going scared podcast. |
| 0:17.6 | Hey, welcome back to the going scared podcast. Today's episode for me was really providential |
| 0:20.7 | because I interview Dr. Kristen Neff after a really challenging week which you're |
| 0:28.7 | going to hear a lot about. But it was profound for me because Kristen Neff is one of the world's leading experts on self-compassion. |
| 0:37.8 | She was the first one to operationally define and measure this idea over a decade ago. I learned about her from reading |
| 0:45.7 | many of Brena Brown's books who definitely helped bring her research to light. |
| 0:50.0 | She's even developed an eight week program to teach self-compassion skills in daily life. |
| 0:57.0 | Kristen talks about self-compassion, which really is how you treat yourself with the same compassion that you would show your close friends. |
| 1:05.9 | And our shared experience as humans is that we don't always get this right. |
| 1:10.9 | We are going to be imperfect. So we dig into why it's so difficult to be |
| 1:15.2 | compassionate with ourselves. She pretty much did some personal coaching. |
| 1:19.2 | This podcast was actually really vulnerable to me for me and we talk about how we can learn |
| 1:25.7 | to be compassionate with the messiness of lives and simply accept ourselves. |
| 1:31.1 | Hey Kristen welcome to the Going Scared Podcast. |
| 1:36.0 | Hi Jessica, glad to be here. |
| 1:38.0 | So I have to say I was actually flying home from an international trip on Sunday and I was looking at my calendar |
| 1:45.7 | and when I saw that I was getting to end my week by interviewing you, I literally took an exhale. |
| 1:51.0 | Like my whole body relaxed and I think it's because I've listened to |
| 1:55.8 | some of your meditation exercises and so I'm like picturing your voice and I'm like |
| 2:00.5 | what a great way to end my Friday talking about self-compassion. |
| 2:07.6 | Yes, well, my favorite topic, so yeah, so it's such a fit for today. It is. So it's such an important concept and yet the practice of it can feel so challenging and so why don't we just start off with you sharing more about the concept |
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