One mistake that's pretty common for a lot of parents to struggle with is being

overly protective of your child. I was guilty of this. I'm a first born, my dad worked for a paper mill and so safety was like everywhere.

Be safe, be safe, be safe, no industrial accidents and he'd bring that mentality home.

And so we avoided accidents and problems and mistakes and

injuries all the time. My wife was a little less concerned and so the kids

could climb the tree and she wouldn't worry about it at all.

They could ride their bikes no-handed and she was fine with that.

It didn't take long for me to realize she's a lot less stressed than I am about this and I quickly embraced my

my dear wife's approach of mistakes happen injuries happen what's the worst I'm

John Fuller along with Danny Werta who heads up our parenting team and Danny maybe I'm a little too laissez-faire

But what's the struggle? This is pretty common right? Oh it is it is I remember I've seen this actually often but I remember a mom walking around with her child as if she was a Sherpa right this is just just following around everywhere. This child making sure they didn't fall. What else do you need?

Honey, can I get you some water? And it was just, it was a constant protection and the child just seemed

super in control of everything but if

but would cry at any moment the parent would just run over it was just really was

unhealthy it was over the top amount protection, where this child could not feel any,

any discomfort.

And if they did, she was really nervous and wanting to help this child.

Now I remember in a counseling session, a mom where I was challenging her

teen son on something we had agreed these are unhealthy behaviors. We need to

challenge him and I was challenging the way that he was treating her in the moment in the session and then

she was just protecting him.

She was saying, well, so honey, in a very soft way allowing for him to really override her and and step all over her

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