Hey there. Welcome back to Jillian on Love.

Last week, I wanted to answer a couple of questions from people who, I believe, had to get out of

the situation that they were in as quickly as possible.

And this week, I wanted to focus on when it's a good idea to maybe work on your relationship.

And I wanted to specifically focus on what happens when you love someone, but your relationship, there's not as much passion

anymore. You don't know if you're attracted to them anymore and you've kind of turned

into roommates. Because out of the thousands of emails and DMs that I get on a regular basis, so much of the struggle

that people are having who don't know whether they should stay or go is because they don't

know if they're like in love with the person anymore.

And it really made me think about this idea of how important it is

to have certainty and safety and comfort and friendship in a relationship. It's like the glue

that keeps people together. But it's also important to have chemistry.

I get so many messages from all of you saying, you know, I met this person.

They're emotionally available.

They're kind.

They listen to me.

But I'm just not feeling that spark, or I'm just

like not attracted to them and I don't know what to do. And so if you are in the early

stages, you're dating someone and there's no chemistry, that's a problem. Now, everyone values chemistry and

physical connection differently. For some people, it is really, really important for other people.

It's not as important. Everyone is different. It depends on the stage of life. It depends on

your history, what you've been through. So everyone is different. It depends on the stage of life. It depends on your history, what you've been through.

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