If your child is discouraged, one of the best things you can do is just remind them, I believe in you.

One of our kids has had some under-employment issues, and it's been hard.

I mean, this economy is a difficult one for an entry-level person.

And I've just had to say, I know we'll find something.

I know you'll find something, I know you'll find something.

And I want to have hope for you, even though you're not feeling it right now.

I have faith in you.

I'm John Fuller, along with Danny Werta, and he heads up the focus on the family parenting department.

Danny, I don't always do this well, but it's important for us to seize a moment like that when our child is despondent or feeling overwhelmed and say, I know you've got something ahead of you that's good. I know God has a future for you.

Yes. And you did it, right? I mean, you did it. You shared a story. That was awesome. I love it. You know, we're listening in to our discouraged

child. That's relational gold. I mean, you're getting to understand a deeper place where they're at

and they're willing to share it with you. And I think a good response that is, hey, thanks for sharing

this with me. It's a gift. They've opened up their heart to you. And a good question is, help me see what you see.

I probably don't see everything.

And so help me see it.

It makes sense that you are feeling discouraged.

It makes sense that you feel a bit helpless, maybe hopeless with this because of what your experience has been. And then you can

say, hey, let me, let me offer some hope. And this is what could happen. And I believe in you

is key. When parents do that, even though a teen may blow it off, they love hearing that.

And I remember when my daughter was taking this test that she felt very ill-equipped to take and very nervous about.

It was a certification to be a personal trainer.

And she was saying, Dad, I don't don't know 85% fail i don't think

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