Welcome to the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

My name is Lisa A. Romano.

I am a life coach, best-selling author, YouTube vlogger, meditation teacher, an expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse.

I am a believer in the power of an organized mind.

My aim is to help people learn what it means to live above the veil of consciousness rather

than living a reactive life.

May your heart feel blessed, your mind feel expanded, and your spirit find hope as you

spend time with me here at the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

So today we're going to be talking about the need to be selfish.

And the type of selfishness that I'm referring to is the type of selfishness that is

the type of selfishness that is tied to self-responsibility, self-accountability, self-compassion, self-knowledge, self-understanding,

humility, and the selfishness that's tied to the type of awareness that helps us bring

about positive changes in our behavior. I think for centuries, if not lifetimes, many of us have been groomed to

think that it is bad to care about the self. Many of us have been raised and watched either our

mother or father cater to the needs of others, acquiesce to the rage of another person, tone themselves down

because of someone else's disapproval. Many of us have been infused with this idea, this

codependent idea that our worth is tied to something outside of us. So if my boss finds value in me,

if my salary, it is a particular amount, if I live in a particular city, state, building, or home, or area, then I am enough. If I am married

versus single, or I am single versus married, then I am enough. If I have this car, that plane, if I have this

vacation under my belt, if I know this person, if this person speaks highly of me, then I am enough.

So there's this idea that we are co-dependent or we are dependent upon something outside of the

self for value or a sense of worth for a sense of I am enough.

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