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CH Ministries.org slash budget. I've got a question about our will. My wife is 63, or 62, I'm 64.

We have two children and adult children, and we have right now our will divided 50-50.

My son has a history of blowing money, and we have stopped helping some years ago.

Also, there's other concerns.

He's in a lifestyle and a relationship that we don't agree with.

And so the question is really simple.

Is it appropriate to change the will where one adult child is a beneficiary of, you know,

a decreased amount?

Yes.

It's totally appropriate.

Okay.

But the goal not is not to be a punishing force

exactly the goal is to i don't want to finance things i don't agree with okay okay with my death

okay and so um the my value system is not matching and so uh i'm not going to uh finance you know

an extreme situation that i always used just to kind of illustrate the concept and it's not

what you're you've got but i mean if your kids doing heroin and you leave them a bunch of

money you killed them because they're going to overdose because they got there are now well-financed heroin addict and so

you know you're not you're not doing them a favor to finance their bad choices

from the grave and so is this something we communicate yes god. Otherwise, you're going to destroy his relationship with his brother. The sibling. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, it's a daughter and the son. Yeah, you're going to destroy it because you're going to leave all this to the daughter, and then when you pass away. He's going to be pissed at her like she did something and she didn't do anything. So, and, you know, and, you know, John makes some, how, what's the gentlest?

Because, again, you want to make sure you're not using, if it's me, I would have a tendency to be doling this out as punishment.

And I have to make sure i get my heart

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