Hi, welcome to the Mary Today podcast. I'm Karen. This is to me. My cute husband.

And we're going to talk about anger.

We're going to talk about anger. We sure are. This is disarming, destructive anger. The bigger topic is intimacy.

You can't have intimacy when you're angry. You know, when you have it dealt with anger properly. Well, feel anger. God gets angry.

It's not a sign of immaturity to be angry. In fact, in anger, in marriage, having problems in your marriage doesn't mean you don't have a good marriage.

When you can't process those problems, that's when you have a bad marriage.

And so the anger that builds in a relationship is because we just don't have the skills of dealing with our anger.

So this podcast today is to help people to learn the skills of dealing with anger. Well, so let's talk about the homes that we came out of.

Both of our homes that we came out of were dysfunctional. And in my home, when our family got angry, we didn't look at each other literally.

You didn't confront each other. You didn't talk it out. You didn't cry. You didn't yell. You just didn't look at each other. It was the most dysfunctional thing in the world.

So in the home that I grew up in, you knew someone was mad at you because they didn't look at you. You knew they were over it because they looked at you.

In your home, there was, you know, yelling and crying. But it was much healthier than our family. And you guys processed through your anger now. I mean, it wasn't ideal.

But it was better than mine. Well, when we got married, you had anger issues related to you to get mad at me and yell on the screen and stuff like that.

I would get mad and get quiet. And I would go days at a time without talking to you to punish you.

Well, it was so totally dysfunctional. And the result of that was we almost forced.

Well, I think anger comes from different circumstances like some people are angry because they're not able to keep control over something.

Exactly. I want the control. I want to do it my way. And so they get angry. I can remember one time going through something.

And I just remember feeling so angry. I was like, Lord, why am I so angry? And the Lord said, because your feelings are hurt.

And so sometimes, you know, you have to process like you're saying, you know, is this a personal thing? Is it, you know, something outside that's coming in that's causing this?

But with your emotions, because anger is an emotion. And, you know, be honest about it.

And ask, Lord, why am I angry? How can I deal with this? Because there is such saying as righteous anger too.

You know, when you see things that are, you know, are supposed to be right and they're not.

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