The following talk was given at the Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City, California.

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So, hello, and welcome to this fifth talk on the different aspects of love, different forms of love.

And today's topic is the fourth of the Brahma Vihara's, the divine abodes.

The fourth being, usually just called equanimity, Upeka in Pali.

And it's many people can't quite understand often people

can't understand that equanimity can be a form of love because equanimity might be closely

related to indifference to not caring um but in fact this equanimity Brahmavahara

is, definitely comes with care,

definitely comes with,

without indifference,

non-aloofness or passivity,

but rather it's with a realism.

It's love that has a realistic assessment of the situation.

And one of the ways that it...

So it's love with wisdom.

And one of the ways that this manifests itself

is to recognize that sometimes we cannot help someone.

You can have all the compassion in the world.

You can have all the kindness in the world.

But people are going to suffer.

They can make the choices they do that are going to make their life hard for them.

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