The following talk was given at the Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City, California.

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So, hello, my friends, and welcome to this fourth talk on the aspects of love. I feel pretty fortunate to be

able to talk on this topic. It brings me joy. And the first day was Anukampang, which I translated

as care. And it's a care that is deeply connected to respect for others.

I like to think of it as a respect where we see everyone as kin.

That maybe we're not directly family, but we're kin, we're related,

we're part of a global family.

And that kinship then leads us to want to be friendly,

inclines us to be friendly to wherever we meet. Why would anybody be an enemy? Why would anybody

be someone who we would not be happy to see? Just happy to see people. Maybe that's what friendliness is.

And offer some of our happiness to them in our way we say hello or maybe that's all it is.

Hi. And then when people suffer, to want to help, to be motivated to see their suffering end, their kids, of course we want it to end.

So if we can, we may do something. If we can't, we then we are a witness, we are, we recognize, we help people not feel so alone, we accompany.

And then today it's when people are having success,

when people are doing good things, when people are happy themselves,

when things are going well for them.

We don't want to end up being envious or jealous. But rather, when we're kin, this openness,

this respect that we're happy to see people, when people are having success, we feel joy, we feel happiness.

To feel that happiness, to take time for that,

to not overlook it, to not race beyond it, but to appreciate.

And in Buddhism, there's a whole meditation practice on appreciative joy, where we just kind of focus on the well-being that other people have.

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