Dependent, Independent, Interdependent - Jayson and Ellen - 423
Relationship Coaching School Podcast
Jayson Gaddis
4.6 • 981 Ratings
🗓️ 29 November 2022
⏱️ 34 minutes
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Summary
When you hear the word “dependency,” what does it conjure up for you? Feelings of resistance? Discomfort? Maybe a squirmy feeling? Or something more positive? Does it feel good for you to be needed?
When we first emerge into the world as infants, we are 100% dependent on our caregiver(s) for all our physical, emotional, psychological, spiritual, and relational needs. Our parents have been responsible for every one of our needs, day in and day out, for years. It is a biological imperative to attach to our caregiver (attachment figure), and it’s completely instinctual—it’s how a baby survives. Being someone’s attachment figure is incredibly demanding.
Attachment science empirically speaks to the similarity between how a child attaches to a parent and how an adult attaches to their spouse, meaning our attachment figure changes from our parent to our significant other. However, your partner is not your caregiver… Contingent on your attachment style (anxious, avoidant, secure), it can become triggering to depend on or depend on someone else.
Join Jayson and Ellen to better understand healthy and unhealthy dependency, normalize it, and even use our needs and dependence to deepen connection.
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| 0:00.0 | If we want to go after the Wii and kind of win at that and just have a really cool ride in this life, |
| 0:05.2 | we're going to be. Welcome to another episode of the Relationship School podcast. |
| 0:33.5 | I'm Jason Goddess. |
| 0:36.6 | And I'm Ellen Bader. |
| 0:38.9 | Married couple. |
| 0:39.9 | What's up? |
| 0:41.9 | All right. We are, I am, speak for myself, glad to be here. |
| 0:47.8 | Yeah, I'm glad to be here with you. |
| 0:50.2 | Yeah, I want to quickly thank you all listeners for leaving us reviews. |
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| 0:59.3 | It says this podcast has been incredibly helpful for me and my family. |
| 1:02.3 | I love that. Excellent. Thanks for leaving a review. This podcast has been incredibly helpful for me and my family. |
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| 1:10.3 | Love it. |
| 1:11.3 | I hope you have ordered my new book by now getting to zero how to work through conflict in your high stakes relationships |
| 1:17.6 | It's already getting dozens of five-star reviews on Amazon. I've heard from a lot of you. Thank you for buying the book, buying it on |
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| 1:31.5 | It's all about how do we get back to a good place after some kind of |
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