Welcome to Dear Prudence. I'm your prudence, Jeney Desmond Harris. I wanted to let you know something. I'm going to be out on parental leave until early 2025. So instead of giving advice, I'll be seeking advice on life with an infant and a toddler. Seriously, email me if you can help. I need all the tips I can get. I'm also still on Twitter at Jay Desmond Harris, so you can find me there.

I'm really going to miss talking to all of you every week. But while I'm gone, please keep the

letters coming and keep listening. The podcast will still be in your feed every Friday hosted by

some of your favorites. You'll get to hear from Slate staffers, including Naderer Goff and Candace Lim,

and more people you know from our other podcasts.

The big news is that I'm delighted to be leaving multiple episodes in the extraordinarily capable hands of our primary guest host, Ashley C. Ford, who I have to say I just really, really love.

I kind of think that anyone who likes Dear Prudence is already familiar with her work, but just in case, she's the author of the New York Times

bestselling memoir, somebody's daughter, she's the host of multiple podcasts, and she's a prolific

writer. More importantly, she's just a genuinely kind, funny, and wise person, who I'm sure

gets asked to give advice all the time in her personal life.

We're really, really lucky to have her filling in, and I know I'll be listening to every word she says.

You should too. To reintroduce her, today we're bringing you an episode that she and I recorded last year.

The two of us gave advice on topics, including whether conflicting ideas about

children should end the relationship between two 20-somethings. I can't remember what we said,

but I'm sure it was right. I can't wait to be back with you guys next year. In the meantime, enjoy the show.

Welcome to Dear Prudence.

I'm Your Prudence, Jeney Desmond Harris.

Today we'll be talking about whether conflicting ideas about children should end a relationship between two 20-somethings,

what to do when a friend is obsessed with her husband's band, and

if it's acceptable to leave your partner behind and vacation without them, if they're

running late and miss the flight.

Here to help me out is my guest Ashley C. Ford.

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