Dear Prudence: My Sister Is Lying to My Nephews About Their Father's Identity. Help!

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🗓️ 8 September 2023

⏱️ 41 minutes

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In this episode, Gene Demby (co-host of NPR's Code Switch) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about crushes that are complicated by power dynamics, family secrets about racial identity, and whether loud talking is a cultural issue that could end a relationship. If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate’s membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members. Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It’s just $15 for your first three months. Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Welcome to Dear Prudence. I'm your prudence, Janay Desmond Harris. Today, we'll be talking
0:10.8	about crushes that are complicated by power dynamics, family secrets around racial identity,
0:17.2	and whether loud talking is a cultural issue that could end the relationship. Here to help
0:22.3	me out is my friend Jean Demby. He has been writing, reporting, tweeting, talking, and
0:26.6	everything about race and identity for 15 years. He's the co-host of NPR's Code Switch podcast,
0:32.3	which is really good. I know I say everyone who comes on is really good, but that's why I chose
0:36.3	them. I actually believe that everybody came on is really good. Don't take my word for it. It
0:41.4	actually was apples first ever podcast of the year. I just want to share a fun fact, and you
0:47.4	can bring this up if you think he gives bad advice. You can throw this back in his face. As a teenager,
0:52.6	he was a youth activist on the abstinence-only speaking circuit. It's so funny because, first of all,
1:01.3	why are you bringing up all this shit? Whenever we play two truths in a lie, that's always the truth
1:05.8	that these people messed up. They're like, wait, what? That's clearly a lie. It's almost worth
1:12.1	living through to get to talk to you. I got to express some disinformation, but it made a good
1:17.3	cocktail story 15 years later. It's funny because I've known that about you for a long time,
1:21.4	that I've never asked you for, like, your talking needs to what your speech was. We don't have to
1:26.1	do that now. We don't have to do it right now. It's embarrassing, and also it's a fun little
1:31.4	card to pull up. Apologies to everyone who gave this information about condoms. Sorry for the people
1:39.7	who didn't get condoms. I'm sure this speech was riveting. Oh, riveting. It started off. My name's
1:44.5	Jean, and my name's Andrew, and we love sex. It really started off like that. That's literally
1:50.6	the first one. Yeah, yeah. And then it was like, but we won't ever do it. But it was like,
1:55.8	but only in the context of loving marriage. Yeah, exactly. That's what God wants for us.
2:01.2	It sounds like it was well written. So with all your interesting background, all your experience
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